Learning to Heal & Move Through
Ignoring our emotions, pushing them down, running from them, and distracting ourselves is only a temporary fix causing momentary relief. When we ignore or push aside our emotions they may seem to disappear, but we are actually burying them within our mental, emotional, and physical bodies to be dealt with later. No matter how deeply we try to hide them or how many positive affirmations we use, if these emotions, fears, worries are not acknowledged, released, and healed they stick with us, embedded deep within, coloring our day, affecting our decisions, our relationships, and our futures. Heal them now or heal them later, these unresolved emotions are meant to be healed, and will come springing forth whenever they get a chance, calling out for resolution.
For many, the core of emotional pains often originate from, but aren't limited to, unresolved experiences we faced in childhood, young adulthood, and past relationships. Left unchecked these ignored confusions, pains, and woundings build and compile becoming more intense. Often as children, or in times of intensity, to cope with difficult, complex and confusing feelings we become masters at burying emotions, putting these difficulties aside. Burying complex or confusing feelings as young children, or in times of great upset, is something that keeps us sane. In our younger developing years we don't always have the tools or safe spaces to learn how to heal or express ourselves. As we move forward in life these deeply buried emotions of the past may become triggered ready to be processed, healed, and acknowledged.
The desire of these unresolved pains is not to haunt us, but to be validated, understood, loved, and finally brought to peace.
When the process of healing the emotional body begins to trigger it is often overwhelming and confusing. The tools and defense mechanisms we used when we were younger may become inadequate. Those who don’t learn to develop adequate coping skills may begin to turn to food, sex, prescribed or illegal drugs for comfort. They may also develop controlling behaviors, self-esteem issues, depression, rage problems, attract co-dependent or abusive relationships.
For many, healing the emotional body can be a scary proposition. Many fear that when they turn within to process their emotions that they might be overcome with a monster of intense feelings and lose all sense of control. The truth is, that when you turn within with love and compassion you begin to realize that these scary, intense emotions and feeling that have been calling to you are simply parts of you that are in pain and are in need of your love and understanding.
One of the many tools that is surprisingly effective with healing built up emotions is learning how to identify your feelings. When you verbally identify emotions it has a calming effect and can instantly relieve stress and anxiety, giving you insight and starting point for even deeper healing. As they say, knowing is have the battle!
To help you begin the healing process of identifying your emotions review the list below and see what stands out to you.
Any of these emotions strike a chord with you?
The words that jump out to you are most likely emotions within that are desiring to be acknowledged, expressed, healed or honored. As you journey and discover more about your own emotional body it is important to realize that you may feel many different emotions all at once, this is very natural and normal. It is never too late, or too early to begin the healing process.
Always remember, when it comes to the emotional body there are no “Suppose tos”, "Have tos" or “Shoulds”. There is just “is”. You feel, whatever you feel, whether it is "logical" or not. Also, on this journey everyone goes at their own pace, and will find their own unique processes. Be kind to yourself, give yourself brakes, and commend yourself for any breakthroughs you make.
Sending you love and support as you journey,